Dating and Relationships October 16th
COMING UP, we are talking LOVE on the show! It's a program for everyone, if your are single, in a relationship or married, we are covering it all! I am in no way a love expert so we asked our friend and dating guru for some additional tips when it comes to the dating department.
Stop THIS and Start THAT to Find Happy Love®
By: Bela Gandhi
I am often called a psychotic optimist – because I believe that love exists for every single person on this planet (that wants it, and is willing to work a little bit to find it). I founded Smart Dating Academy eight years ago to teach singles everywhere, of all ages, HOW to identify the right partners, and how to date to find them (since we are rarely taught that at home). People often ask, “What’s the secret to finding happy love?” The common denominator of every client that found love was that they’d stopped their self-sabotaging behaviors and replaced those with successful strategies. The “stop” and “start” behaviors were different for every successful person, but here are some of the most common ones that you might identify with – and can put you on the superhighway to finding love this year:
1. Stop believing in "types." When someone says “my type,” I hear “dating pattern.” If you have a type, you might just be doing the same wrong thing over and over again, with no success. Start casting your net wider, because your mate will come to you in an unexpected package — I promise.
2. Stop dating bad guys/gals, and Start dating high GHQ men (High in Good Husband Qualities)! High GHQ men are kind, reliable, consistent and ‘like you a little more’ than you like them. Bad boys are, well, bad. You can’t fix anyone except yourself. And if you’re looking for a wife, “High in Good Wife Qualities.”
3. Stop thinking online dating sites and apps are useless, and start getting back online the right way. You need great photos of you alone, headshots and body shots, and a positive, memorable profile. There are millions of Americans dating online at all times, and it’s estimated that one in three marriages start online.
4. Stop ‘speed dating’, and getting rid of someone after date one just because there is no ‘chemistry’. Start giving love a chance to develop. Chemistry can grow – and sometimes the real first date is the second date! Unless you see any deal-breaker behaviors (angry, abusive, addictive, critical), give him/her up to five-six dates to let the love develop
5. Stop having sex too early. Start practicing ‘sexclusivity’ - waiting until you are in an exclusive relationship to have sex. This continues to amaze me. Successful women wonder why sleeping with a man on the third date is a bad idea. Why? It usually stunts the emotional growth of the relationship. He should love you before hopping in the sack. Old school? Maybe. Good advice? Definitely.
6. Stop thinking butterflies in your stomach are the sign you should be looking for! Start knowing that butterflies are often a bad sign. Butterflies are often fear and anxiety, and your body’s way of saying, “Danger up ahead! Run!” I don’t know any women who married the guys that gave them butterflies.
If you’re not in a relationship and want to be, you can be. If you’re in one that’s not healthy, you can find a better one. Think hard about what you’re doing well and what’s not working—what to stop and what to start – and have someone give you a helping hand. I promise you, love exists for everyone – especially you.
Relationships can be tricky and the good news for you, Bella has even more advice on our program. Here's a look at what's coming up this Monday!
Whitney Reyn
Topic:
Dating and Relationships
Guests:
Bela Gandhi- Love Coach
Kendra Chaplin- Chicago Woman Magazine
Erika Kybartas- It’s Just Lunch
Caitlin and John- A couple who not only met online but also had a reality wedding. Opening up about finding love.
VV- Question:
With everyone connect online, do you find it harder to meet people in person?
We want this show to encourage our single viewers. If you are looking for love, fingers crossed you find it. To all our married or committed folks, we hope this show put a smile on your face, thinking back on your journey to love. Remember you can always weigh in on this topic, twitter: @whitneyreynolds or #TWRSdating.
See you next Monday!
The Emmy Awards and our NEW SEASON
Whitney Reynolds and Dave Heiner
Last weekend was a complete fairytale. For the first time in my show's history we were nominated for an Emmy. This was not only my first Award's Show, but I also got asked to present. I walked the red carpet with my team, family and even with my fans LIVE via Periscope (FOLLOW @WhitneyReynolds). This picture above is one of those moments, I will talk about for years to come. No we did not win, but that's not my end all goal. MY MISSION- is to change lives, provoke positive change and help others, through our television program. Now that's what we will ALWAYS continue to do. I am however looking forward to many more nights like this one in the coming years.
BIG THANKS- to all the prep work that went in to my night! The good news is they are local for everyone who lives in Chicago and also online for everyone else. DRESS- Borris Powell, SHOES- Emy Mack, JEWELS- Accessory Mercado, MAKEUP- Starlight Makeup, HAIR- Robert Jeffrey Hair Studio, AIR BRUSH- Celebrity Skin, NAILS- Dynamic Salon! Love that all these folks have believed in me for multiple years and continue to support the show.
SEASON 5
We are officially in week 3 of our fall season. Coming up tonight we are talking "Perinatal Loss." This show is beyond real. I am so thankful for our brave guests who came on and were honest about their personal journey. I had to take a break to just catch my breath. This topic will hit to the core. I know ANYONE reading this blog knows someone that has miscarried or had complication with their pregnancy. The stats of people impacted by this topic are off the chart and we hope tonight's show helps change the stigma around talking about it.
Still to come this season we have-
- The Plus Size Movement
- Suicide Prevention
- Rising To The Top
- A Life Story
REMEMBER- With Thanksgiving right around the corner, this is a great time to reflect on everything in your life to be THANKFUL for. We are surrounded by daily blessings, but sometimes we are too busy to see them. A grateful heart is a beautiful heart!
I want you to know how thankful I am for each of you! Your support and viewership is the reason we keep growing and reaching more people!
What I've Learned in 28 Years
I've learned more in my late 20's than ever before & I am going to tell you some of my top lessons! If only I could have written a letter to the "younger Whitney" and explained where we'd be in 2014.
Work: When I first started my career I was very competitive. One thing I've learned with age is there is beauty in EMPOWERMENT. "Girls Compete with one another and women empower each other." It's simply, be the best YOU! CHANGE... In the past, I always looked at change as a bad thing and this year it has proven to be the best news I could have received. In a few months we will be making a huge announcement and if it weren't for a little of change we would still be stuck in the past. Get ready for some exciting news and pumped up for major change!
Life: This year for lent I decided to take an hour a week and reflect on things/people I am thankful for. I am writing hand-written letters to people who have invested in my life and helped mold me into the woman I am today. What I discovered in this process is, GRATITUDE leads to JOY! A thankful heart = a joyful heart!
Love: In November of last year I got married to the love of my life and we decided to write our own vows. One of things I value about David is our differences. In my vows I promised, "Not to change him, rather GROW with him." I know that the David I married in November, will not be the same a year from now. Yes, we will still love each other, but we must remember to grow together. ACCEPT people for who they are and embrace the person they are becoming!
Take a moment today and think about your last year. It doesn't matter what birthday you are celebrating, embrace the lessons you have learned and try to make this year the best! That's my birthday wish for you!